I know I promised this on Sunday night. I’m so sorry…
I think it is going to have to be a Monday night thing. You know how it is when a bunch of girls get together for an hour long Bible study. It NEVER just lasts for one hour. It starts at 7ish and ends… late. 🙂
Without further ado… Here is Chapter 2.
Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places
“Women just want to be rescued.” (Charlotte York, Sex and the City)
The women of Sex in the City pride themselves on being single and independent women. They are completely self-sufficient (or so they think). Carrie’s response to Charlotte’s statement is the underlying motto that this show wants to relay to women. She says, “Did you ever think we’re supposed to rescue ourselves?” They want you to think that you are strong, powerful, independent and you don’t need anyone else. You can do everything all by yourself.
Pretty sad don’t ya think?? I think so too. We all have this desire to be rescued, but many of us have let that go. Marian states that life sometimes teaches us some pretty tough lessons. She states that this causes us to bury the desire to be rescued. What kind of life lessons have we been taught that can do this to us?
- past mistakes
- being mistreated
- the list could be endless…
Why is it that every girl desires to be rescued? I propose that it is a God-given desire. What do we need to be rescued from?? Marian ingeniously turns to the Waylon Jennings song “Lookin’ for Love in All the Wrong Places.” We all need to be rescued from this!
Just as the song says, we are continually searching for something or someone to fill the empty spot that we all feel. But will something or someone fill what is missing?
A perfect example of how this will not fill us is to look at Hollywood. These young, beautiful people have the world at their fingertips. They have the guy/girl, money, clothes, a personal trainer, chef, the car, and all the “worldly” things that we want, but they are not happy. If they were “happy,” they wouldn’t be in and out of rehab or dying at a young age from drug overdoses. Agree??? I thought so.
How many times do we look at worldly things to fill our void? Marian proposes a few questions/statements that I want us to think about. They are on page 28.
How often do we tell ourselves:
- If I were married, then my life would be perfect.
- If I had a better job, then I would be satisfied.
- When I buy my own house, then I will be happy.
- When I lose 10 pounds, then I will feel OK.
What is your if/then statement that you put on yourself??
Marian makes a very serious statement about this bondage that we put ourselves in. She says that for some of us, looking for love in all the wrong places can be a life sentence. However, it doesn’t have to be!
When the world was first created, Adam and Eve didn’t struggle with the emptiness, doubt, and insecurities that we deal with today. Sounds nice doesn’t it???
Lets talk about insecurity. I would say that 99.99% of us deal with this. (for you .01%– you are lying to yourself) In the beginning, Adam and Eve were never concerned about their looks or if they were “accepted” or “pretty.” Why? Because they knew who created them. Marian says on page 32, “Identity is something that is bestowed. We cannot define it ourselves. Today, we are always looking outside of ourselves for someone to tell us who we are, but for Adam and Eve, the question wasn’t up for debate… If the God of the universe, who spoke the world into existence, said they were good-then that settled it.” Doesn’t that sound nice?? So why do we not believe this now???
I think the main reason we don’t hold onto this truth is because Satan is good at his job. He puts doubts and stumbling blocks in our way. The reason we are all searching for love and long to be rescued is because Satan deceived Eve at the fall (Genesis 3) and us today.
A lot of times, we don’t realize what Satan is doing to us until we find ourselves in a mess! True??
When Adam and Eve fell into sin and were separated from God, Marian tells us that they fell into shame. On page 39, Marian tells us the root of all our problems: “We were not created for life separated from God. When Adam and Eve chose to dethrone God and cut the cord of dependence–by deciding for themselves what is good and evil–humankind indeed got independence from God. And this independence is the source of every heartache, disappointment, and the emptiness we experience in world today.”
Instead of holding on to who we know we are in Christ, we allow Satan to steal away our security by putting other things in our mind and hearts. We are left searching for something to fill this emptiness and searching for who we are.
Marian says so perfectly on page 41, “And because He (Jesus) loves us with this incomprehensible love, He comes to rescue us and set us free from our prison of “looking for love in all the wrong places.”
Over the next couple chapters, Marian (and you and me!) will be looking at substitutes we sometimes turn to fill this problem we have. Whenever we put something in the place that God alone is supposed to fill, it leaves us searching and frustrated. It leaves us saying, as Marian puts it, “I still haven’t found what I’m looking for.”
Hope you all enjoying the book as much as the girls have this summer!!
I hear someone special is having a birthday tomorrow!! 😉