Sex in the City Uncovered, Chapter 6

I bet you thought I had forgotten about bookclub! Sorry about the hiatus. Without further ado, I give you Chapter 6, “Looking for Love at Happy Hour.”

Before you close this window out because you don’t drink or don’t partake in “happy hour”, read on. Or, if you think this is going to be a post judging those who drink, keep reading!

Marian lets us know at the very beginning of the chapter that our “happy hour” doesn’t have to be about alcohol at all. Marian says on page 140, “Happy hour could be buy-one-get-one-free at your favorite shoe store. Or it could be marathon hours in front of the television or the Internet. Still for some, it is an all-you-can-eat buffet or hours exercising at the gym or sleeping the entire day away. It’s all the same really.”

Whatever our “happy hour” is, we use it to escape. What is your happy hour? What do you turn to when you are stressed out or need to escape? When you are at your lowest point, where do you turn? Do you turn to a relationship, food, the mall, exercise, or facebook? That, my friends, is your happy hour or comfort zone.

These things are not necessarily bad things for us. However, when we put them in the position that only God should fill and make them our comfort zone, we will have an unhealthy relationship with our “escape”.

The problem with this is that no matter how much we run to that relationship or how much we eat, spend, or exercise, we will never be satisfied. The more that we do these things, the more we NEED to do them because our souls are still empty. The pain and the emptiness never goes away. There will never be enough ice cream to fill your empty soul. When we continue to run on empty, we are end up allowing these substitutes to imprison us.

We feel like we need or have to do those things that are our comfort zones. So how does it imprison us? Marian shares on page 151 that shopping can imprison us by leading us to financial debt. Eating, starving, and/or excessive exercise can imprison us to weight, health, and body image issues. You get the picture.

So what are we to do about filling our void? Why can’t we find happiness in our comfort zones? Because it isn’t there. Peace and fulfillment is only found when we are connected with our Creator.

Marian shared a quote from C.S. Lewis that I thought was perfect, and I’m going to share it with you.

God designed the human machine to run on Himself. He Himself is the fuel our spirits were designed to burn, or the food our spirits were designed to feed on. There is no other. That is why it is just no good asking God to make us happy in our own way without bothering about religion. God cannot give us a happiness and peace apart from Himself, because it is not there. There is no such thing.

Whenever we are so used to looking to our comfort zones to fill us, it is hard to think of giving those things up. Mostly because of habit, but we also get addicted to them. It is also scary to change sometimes. We all must be real with ourselves and realize that these things are empty and are getting us no where. When we come to this realization, we have a choice to make. What are we going to do about it?

Marian shares on page 163 that the lure of this old life and old way of thinking and behaving can be even more enticing or tempting when you see it for what it really is. Satan uses these things to keep us in bondage. Next time you find yourself in a tough spot and are in need of escape or comfort, you have a decision to make. Are you going to run to Jesus or turn to your comfort zone? Remember that the latter won’t get you anywhere.

Do you all have comfort zones?

Mine is cooking and food. Everyday it is a battle, but I’m learning to not take my frustrations out on my almond butter jar and granola. Instead, I read my Bible or pray. I am what you would call a emotional eater, now I’m trying to be a continual prayer warrior.

To catch up on bookclub posts:
Chapter 1
Chapter 2
Chapter 3
Chapter 4
Chapter 5
Don’t forget that the Stevia giveaway ends tonight.  The winners will be announced tomorrow!

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